If there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 6 years is that parenting? It’s a mystery.
You can read a million books. You can take parenting classes. You can prepare yourself in 100 different ways…but ultimately, it’s just you (a collective you), your instincts, your power of manipulation, and patience. Lots of patience. And maybe some wine.
A big glass of wine.
My first 4 years of parenting I went solo 3-5 nights a week. The hubby is a manager a retail store and well, it is what it is. He would have to close the store and I would have my own kind of night duty. The first 18 months of B’s life we barely spent a single weeknight together. I won’t lie, it was frustrating and lonely at times. On the plus side, I’ve spent A LOT of quality time with my kids!
And I took a lot of pictures of them…
This continued when the hubby went back to school (but only a few times a week) and while it wasn’t ideal we realized something, despite feeling like you are doing all by yourself… when it’s just one of us, it’s easier.
It defies logic, I know. My only guess is that there is less of an audience, so therefore there is less of a show.
When we are both here it’s pretty much chaos. Kids screaming at each other at daycare pickup. Kids fighting while I making dinner, Kids complaining while we are eating. Screaming, whining, complaining. You get the point.
But tonight the hubby had to close. The first time in a long and time. You know what happened? Yep. Silence.
Proof that sometimes they aren’t killing each other.
Tonight the kids were…dare I say… great? Sure, they were a little tired whiney (for the record, so was I) but they played together NICELY, ate dinner without complaint it helped that they were eating mozzarella and tomato paninis), showered without killing each other, and actually went to bed with kisses and not crying.
Now, I do not miss my solo nights and I bow down to single parents who have no choice but to do it alone, but every now and then — it’s nice to be reminded of what you have… and, oddly enough, to get a little peace and quiet.
But back to that parenting thing… Yeah. I don’t get it. Hope you weren’t looking for any advice!