Last week I saw this on Pinterest:
AND THEN yesterday, I read this story on MSNBC. It REALLY hit a nerve.
As moms, so often the voice we hear in our heads is a critical one. It’s a voice that reminds us of all the little things we’re failing at or not doing well enough. But what about all of the things that we’re really great at? Why can’t we think about those things more?
As I’ve stated probably 100 times here, there, and everywhere – I am far from a perfect mom. I am impatient, distracted, and at times selfish. There’s never enough time. There’s frequently yelling or disciplining. Some days I think, “Am I really cut out to be a mom?” I don’t ever regret my decision to have children, but I do wonder if I am giving them the best of me.
It really goes without saying that I would do anything (and I mean ANYTHING) for my family – but on a day to day? I give myself a C. Maybe on a REALLY good day, a B.
And it’s not even that I would change anything to be a better mom. Working outside our home makes me a better mom. Running and working out making me a better mom. Spending time with my friends makes me a better mom. Going away (alone!) with my husband makes me a better mom. Shopping (alone!) makes me a better mom.
But not a perfect, super mom. Nope. Not even close.
But, who says that’s a bad thing? The flaws my parents had have driven me to be a better person. Their mistakes make me realize that it’s OK to make them myself. To find my way. To realize that it’s OK to fail. They also give me perspective. And everyone needs a little perspective.
And you know what? I DO think I am good at some mom stuff. Great in fact.
- I can tickle two kids at once and have them in fits of laughter in seconds.
- I’m good at reading aloud. Sometimes I’ll even do voices.
- I’m a great home chef. My kids eat what I cook about 80% of the time. 90% if I bribe.
- I can sing a mean off-key lullaby and I can rock for hours.
- I give amazing hugs and kisses.
- I’m the best person to wake up for middle of the night snuggles.
- I’m really good at counting backwards from 5. (OK, maybe this isn’t a good thing)
- I’m a great shopper and outfit putter-together.
- I’m great at starting dance parties.
- I good at making faux hawks and “Princess Leia” hair.
- I’m great at pretending I don’t know the punch line to knock-knock jokes I’ve heard 100 times.
- I can make my kids smile every single day.
- My kids know I love them. Even if they will never realize how much.
Sometimes being a mom is about the little things and you know – I really, really love the little things.
What makes YOU super?