The news is really pissing me off lately. It makes me constantly question what year we are living in. It’s still 2012, right? Because these three things make me feel like time is going backwards.
1. Women in the workplace.
I could really do an entire post of this, but I try to restrain myself. There have been various articles lately about women working. How we “can’t have it all ”, how proud we are SO proud that pregnant woman was named CEO of a major company (but she’s not going to take maternity leave), and how there’s still a gap in pay between men and women.
As a working mom here my take:
- You CAN have it all – but you need to define all. I don’t want to be the CEO of a company. I don’t want to lead our country. I want to have a family, live a healthy and happy life, take vacations, enjoy the little things, and be proud of my accomplishments. Let’s not focus on what women AREN’T doing. Let’s focus on what they ARE doing. Let’s refedine what “having it all” really means.
- Dear Marissa Mayer – TAKE A MATERNITY LEAVE. I think it’s awesome that you are only a few years older than me and have accomplished so much — but I’m sorry, but using maternity leave as a bartering tool is just not helping ANY woman (or man, truthfully) in any way. I didn’t have a maternity leave. I had Short-Term Disability for 6 weeks (woo-hoo /sarcasm) and any vacation time I had saved up. Do you know how HARD it is to go back to work when your baby is 8 weeks old (which is what I did, even though it meant less pay and not having vacation hours)? I love my job and I love being a working mom, but it’s EFFING hard. By not taking a leave, I think she’s not only doing herself and her family a disservice, but also making the statement that it’s OK that the US does not provide any kind of maternity leave for women. Do you know how many countries provide paid leave?? MORE THAN 120. (and apparently, I not alone in my sentiments)
- On another note why – why are we applauding Yahoo! for hiring her in the first place? How is this news? I am very supportive of working moms (obviously), but this isn’t the first CEO to have a baby.
- And finally – the pay gap thing. BLERG. I feel like when people talk and write about this topic they blame WOMEN for having lower pay than men. Yes, it sometimes takes negotiation and balls of steel to ask for what you think you deserve, but I think the issue goes further than that. First off, women majority jobs tend to pay less. HELLO teachers and nurses! If people are so concerned about the pay gap then maybe these job salaries just need to be more competitive (I strongly believe that could also help our educational system – but that’s another topic for another day). Secondly, most women I know DO put family first and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with this. So please stop the blame game. Women can only do so much to close the gap — let’s stop saying “Come on ladies, step up your game” and start asking “What can actually DO to ensure workplace equality.”
2. Marriage Equality and Fast Food
Dear Chik-fil-a President, STFU! I don’t care about your opinion on who should be able to get married. Hearing your ridiculous statement about “family values” makes the majority of Americans want to punch you in the face and boycott you. You are the ONLY fast food that I eat (not including Chipotle) and now I’m struggling to support you. YOU MAKE FOOD – how does gay marriage or any kind of marriage impact you??? I don’t CARE what your views are. Please stop talking about it. If not, your loss. Haven’t you learned that mixing religion with corporate America is not such a hot idea?
I try to be open-minded with this kind of stuff. Sure, there are plenty of people (possibly even those reading this) that don’t agree with my stance on marriage that I would still gladly sit down and eat a meal with (I am not in the business of changing opinions, as long as you can accept I also have my own) — but I have a hard time accepting that making this kind of PUBLIC statement, when it has NOTHING to do with the business you are in, is necessary.
UPDATE: I’m editing this post almost 2 weeks later to say what REALLY pisses me off about CFA. I am not going to argue about freedom of speech. I agree that the President of the company can say whatever the heck he wants to about whoever the heck he wants to. What I’ve realized I can’t tolerate though is the discrimination. Sure, they might not discriminate against gay people in the workplace. Pay them well. Give them benefits. But bottom line: The company is STILL donating money to anti-gay/discriminatory organizations. Not just a little cash either - MILLIONS and MILLIONS of dollars. This money I would rather see go elsewhere. There are starving kids and homeless families all over this country, and they choose to donate their money to this kind of cause? To organizations that aim to “reform” gay people — as if being gay is a CHOICE? To organizations that have been labeled by the SPLC as “hate groups”? Just because 2 people want to live their lives together, to commit to each other, to possibly raise a family in NO WAY impede on YOUR freedom or come between YOUR marriage. Utterly ridiculous. I am not telling anyone they need to do what I say, but think about it. This is the real reason I will not longer be spending my money there. It pains me to do this – and I will continue to do this with any other organization who takes this kind of financial stance (*ahem* Target – you are tetering on a fine line) .
3. Organic Food.
I’ve posted this NYT article about the Organic Food Industry on my personal Facebook page (and I’ve kind of touched on this before) – but this article is both enlightening and pisses me off. This in particular is concerning:
As corporate membership on the board has increased, so, too, has the number of nonorganic materials approved for organic foods on what is called the National List. At first, the list was largely made up of things like baking soda, which is nonorganic but essential to making things like organic bread. Today, more than 250 nonorganic substances are on the list, up from 77 in 2002.
How many more nonorganic substances are going to be added to this list (by the way – the last one added was a herbacide)? Why we are paying extra for this crap??? Come on food industry — we deserve better!
Now you know my opinions… what pisses you off?