How To Stay {Kinda} Sane The Last Weeks of Pregnancy

I’ve mentioned before that the last few weeks of pregnancy are the hardest. As I sit here, 1 day before my due date, I will reiterate this point.  They suck.

The build up to the day you will FINALLY get to meet your baby consists of some of the slowest days you’ll ever experience. I seriously need to know — is the Earth REALLY rotating around the sun???

The anticipation is killing you and everyone around you (especially if you have refrained from finding out the sex – which bothers everyone else 100 times more than it bother you, FYI). You also feel like you’re disappointing everyone every time you show up somewhere. I mean, I frequently hear – “OH, you’re still HERE. DAMN.” I know they’re disappointed FOR ME, but it’s discouraging all the same. Particularly when your Dr. says it to you.

Believe it or not there ARE ways to overcome the anticipation and disappointment. Here’s what I’ve been doing…

Doing some “Due Date” shopping and running as many errands as possible

I’m not in the market quite yet to buy any postpartum clothes, the baby is SET, and I’m certainly not buying anymore maternity clothes — but nobody told me I had to stay away from Ulta.

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I’m also enjoying QUICKLY running in and out of stores to run last minute errands. I know this sounds like a weird thing to enjoy, but it’s amazing how much harder it is when you have a tiny, cranky boob machine attached to you 24/7. Plus, those cars eats are hella heavy.

Spending time with the hubby

I cannot say that Dan really WANTS to spend that much time with me these days (spouses really get the the short end of the stick when you are cranky, hormonal, and uncomfortable), but it is important to get in that “last date night” before the baby arrives.

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Don’t worry, you’ll be spending A LOT of time together in the next few weeks – during labor/delivery and recovery – but it’s usually pretty onesided (and it also usually involves watching a baby being born, which I can only imagine is horrifying and fascinating at the same time).

Watching movies

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Chances are, I won’t be heading to the movies any time soon, so I’m taking advantage of all of the early summer movie releases. I can cross Iron Man 3 off my list and if I’m still pregnant on Friday I’ll be able to cross off The Great Gatsby. There are also quite a few movies that have recently been released on DVD that I WANTED to see. In the past few weeks we’ve watched This Is 40 and Silver Linings Playbook. Not sure what it will be this week! Any recommendations?

Reading, Relaxing, Napping

It took my entire pregnancy for me to remember to bring my Nook to Dr. Appts. Better late than never.

I’m still working – so I’m not doing any of this during work hours (umm sure), but on weekends and during downtime I am trying to sneak in as much R&R as I can.

I know that my days with a newborn will be relatively low key, but it’s amazing how much time those suckers take up!  I wish you could bank sleep, but since I know you can’t I will just fondly remember these last few days of straight sleep as much as possible – bathroom trips and all.

Making plans/doing things with friends

This is actually the BEST time to make plans with friends because if you end up having to cancel on them — they can’t get mad. Actually, most of your friends WANT you to cancel on them because that means you are finally going to have that damn baby. So, for the past 3 weeks I have filled up my social calendar with book club, happy hours, and dinners. It gives me something within grasp (and definite) to look forward to.

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Thank goodness for friends!

Eating all the things

Truthfully, my appetite is pretty nonexistent (it’s so ironic it’s not even funny!), but when I’m hungry these days I definitely indulge and go with what I am craving more than ever before. As I should.

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It’s a perk that you truly don’t appreciate until later – but unless your Dr. specifically warns you from eating specific types of food — nothing is really off limits. Eat up pregnant ladies.

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For example, yesterday and today I had pudding pie (it’s literally chocolate fudge pudding in a graham cracker pie crust) for breakfast. I’m pretty sure that trend is going to continue throughout the week and I’m not even the tiniest bit sorry.

Exercising

I’m not getting my heart pumping like I used to (I’m lucky if I break a sweat these days!), but exercise is definitely still keeping me sane.

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Even if it’s just a nice walk around the neighborhood – stop moping about how the baby is still in you and DO SOMETHING. Dance, walk, lift weights, do yard work– whatever takes your mind off what’s NOT happening. Who knows, if you’re lucky if could actually put you into labor!

Spending time as a foursome (threesome, twosome, whateversome)

Even if you have the smoothest transition ever — you are still adding on another family member and it’s never going to be the same. I’ve definitely been trying to spend as much time as possible with the four of us as a family – as well as the kids individually.

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When I was pregnant with L, I definitely had a huge freak out about not giving B the same amount of attention once she was born. I was right in that my attention shifted, but I’ve realized over time it’s not about quantity, but quality – and it’s good to bank some quality time before the quantity drops off!

Sipping on a glass of wine/beer

I’m not recommend you chug an entire bottle of wine – but I do recommend pouring yourself a glass (or a bottle of beer) and soak in a warm bath to help you relax.

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This will probably be the most relaxed you will be for months, so enjoy it while you can. Plus, I find that it helps me sleep better at night. Any kind of sleep is a good thing.

Pampering yourself

Face it – once the baby is here your life is no longer about “you.” Postpartum recovery pretty much sucks, even if you’ve had the simplest birth, so now that’s time to really pamper yourself without having to tote a (very demanding) infant around. Go get your hair done, a pedicure, or a massage (or in my case – all three things!).

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You will not regret it – plus you will look great and feel somewhat calm going into labor and delivery!

Having a good sense of humor

Just get silly.

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It helps when your friends like to be silly with you.

Things I recommend you NOT do? Googling things like “Labor symptoms” and “natural induction methods” because they will just make you batty(but don’t worry – you’re totally going to do this any way). Also, don’t go online and read any Birth Stories because for every good story, you will read one that horrifies you.

Truthfully, I think the most helpful thing you can do to keep yourself both sane and in good spirits is remind yourself that at some point – whatever point that may be and however it happens – you will soon be holding YOUR baby in your arms.

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Regardless of the boredom, the pain, and  the moments of insanity — (and even though they look like smushed up aliens), it’s an experience that you will never forget and it’s worth every single second.

Is this day over yet?

Comments

  1. says

    Awwww, I love this! And OMG, L totally looks like herself as a newborn!! You rarely see that (my kid sure doesn’t look now like she did then) but L totally does!!

    Almost there! Sing it to the tune of “Almost There” from Princess and the Frog. It will totally make you feel better. Or not. But it’s a fun song to sing.

    And remember: if you go into labor during the GG, I’m totally prepared to break any and all speed limits to get you to the hospital. I feel like that third baby is going to fly out of you! Just don’t make me deliver him/her. :)
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    • says

      You think L looks like herself? I think she looks crazy. Lol. It’s so bizarre seeing them for the first time. I know my first thought was “Holy crap, you were not at all what I imagined!” lol.

      I am almost excited about the thought of going into labor during the movie. Although, it would probably be more practical to rush me home (unless of course we’re having a “I didn’t know I was pregnant” moment and I’m about to birth it in the bathroom). Lol. I don’t know about flying out – but I do feel like once labor gets going, it’s not going to take TOO long.

  2. Mom says

    How sweet is your sweet tooth!! You don’t eat alot of desserts..lol.. Good for you.. I love that you can express yourself so clearly! You are such a “Strong” woman, such a loving and “cuddly” mother..YES you are! It wonderful that you are reflecting..you will be busy in a few /days/weeks. Will see you then! Be strong, and breathe!! My love is with you..and B and L.. and of course.. Dan!

    • says

      Just know that it gets easier! I think the whole not being able to run errands on the fly thing was one of the most mind blowing things to me once B arrived. I just never understood how easy it was before!! Now I run most of my errands during the day, when they are in bed, or whenever I can escape the house by myself!!

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      The food is pretty damn good :) It tastes better too. I swear!

      I have read/seen both The Help/Hunger Games. Loved them both!! Thanks for the rec though :)

  3. says

    I approve of these methods, as well as your silliness and your Ulta purchases. I’ve been on a lipstick/gloss/pencil buying spree the last 2 days, which is funny considering I wear chapstick ONLY. I’m a wannabe lipstick wearer.

    If you need something else to watch, I highly recommend Scandal via Netflix. OMGobsessed. Seriously, you’ll get sucked in and wonder why you weren’t watching all along. Dan will like it, too. (Since I know him and what he would and wouldn’t like, clearly.)

    Thinking of you!
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    • says

      I am the same way with lipstick! I have both 3 recently — and I DON’T WEAR IT. What is wrong with me?? I do love the Naked Blush I bought yesterday though — iI’ve been lusting after it for a few weeks and kept talking myself out of it. Glad I splurged!

      Oh, I will have to add Scandal to my list of things to watch while I’m on leave! Not sure if I can convince Dan — but it’s worth a shot!

  4. Angie says

    The end is the worst! We also didn’t find out the sex beforehand. Lots of anxious grandparents. My husband just said the baby is here and sent a separate text with a pic and stats. It was funny!.

  5. says

    Love this and oh how i remember those days! I finally delivered at 41w1d and was long done! I made a lot of plans with friends and hit the gym, got plenty of strange looks. I did google natural induction methods and well worth the laugh for some of those listed!
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      I got to 41w1d wiith Livie — man that was tough! I do wonder how much longer I would have gone if they had let me. I don’t know that I could have been pregnant much longer for mental reason.

      Oh, and the looks at the gym are the best. I swear that’s the only reason I’m still going!

  6. Stefanie says

    Not only are these good pre-baby tips. These are also good ‘life in general’ tips. :) You are a wise woman! And lugging around a baby/toddler to run errands is SO MUCH WORK. Any time I can run an errand without Little C, is like a mini vacation.

    • says

      Ha ha – you’re too funny. Maybe a wiseass??

      I swear running errands is the bain of parenthood. I’d rather fight traffic on the way home from work than go when it’s quiet and serene and it involves dragging kids with me. It DOES get easier (I actually love taking B place now because he’s like my shopping bud), but not until they are at least 5!

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